Family "The Myth of the Perfect Family"

What comes to your mind when you think about your family?  How often do you just think about your family and what it is made of?  For most of us when we think about family we probably don’t think that we have the perfect family.  Yet in the back of our thoughts we might be searching for the perfect family.  Them family that never ever fights, that always agrees with what you want to do.  As we go through life we experience it with our family, we learn and grow in life with our family.  But what is family?  How does one define family?  Well for some of us a family is a Dad, Mom, brothers or sisters and us.  But not ever family is made up the same.  So what is family?  So for practical purposes we will define your family as the people who you live with day to day.  The people who are connected with the common purpose to be a family.  So what does family look like for you?  Well, only you can answer that question.  We all have family, and we all will be shaped by our family experiences.  

Family life can be hard but it does not have to be hard.  Chances are that family was not so hard a few years ago.  When you think back to elementary school, family might have seemed easier, a more happier time.  So what has changed?  Why has family life maybe become more difficult?  Well, to put it quite frankly you are changing.  As you go through Middle School you are changing and things about you are changing the family.  

So what about the perfect family, it might appear that it was the perfect family years ago, but now things have changed.  The first thing we want you to understand is this.  There is no perfect family.  Family is made up of people, and people are not perfect.  So you can’t get a perfect family from imperfect people.  That is just the way it is.  If there is no perfect family then what are we to do.  

As you read this you might be thinking about that family that you know and you might be saying they are a perfect family.  But that is not possible since it is made up by imperfect people.  So why do they look perfect to you?  They look perfect to you because they are not your family.  They might do family different than you and they might do family in a way that you would want to do family but in no way are they perfect. The best thing for you to consider is how can you make a positive impact on the family that you have.  How will you be the change in your family.  As you grow and change, you will need to play a more active role in your family.  

So ask yourself these two questions:

What role do you play in your family?

How do you influence your family?

Then after you start to process these questions get ready to talk, yes  talk to your family.  As we look at family we will be pushing to talk and communicate with your family.  Scared, don’t be we are going to help you in the journey!

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