Family "Living Up to Expectations"

What are the expectations that you live under?

We have have expectations put on us in life.  Sometimes expectations can crush us and cause stress in our lives.  Other times expectations can cause us to soar and fly higher than we ever thought that we could.  The expectation pushes us and we excel.  


So what is it about expectations, why are some good and some bad? 

Here is the deal, Expectations are good things, but they get a bad rap.  The good ones help you go further and grow and develop with the reality of who you are and what you were made for in mind.  The bad expectations are the ones that well stretch you so far and push you so hard that you break.  “These expectations are not based in understanding who you are and what you were made for.  They are based in what someone else wants you to be.”  Lets face it we all need someone helping us and pushing us, but the person behind the expectation needs to really know who we are and what we were made for. 

In the end we have expectations that we put on ourselves and sometimes we put expectations on ourselves that we can’t meet.  We are caught in the trap of trying to please others, we think we know what will make them happy and well we set expectations that just aren’t true.

So where do we find help, what is the answer to living with expectations?  

Check this out, Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. When we take a look at this verse we are reminded that it is ultimately Jesus who we seek to please.  He has expectations for us but we can be confident that His expectations will guide us to the best possible life.  God’s way of living is always the best way to live.  

Okay so if you are truly living out that verse, then it should take care of many things. But what if you still have expectations that are put on you that you just can live up to…  What are you to do then?  Communicate, talk with the people who are putting the expectations upon you.  Talk with them and let them know the pressures that you are under and how things are affecting you.  You have a voice and you have to use it.  Okay so these conversations will probably need to happen with your parents, and you can say it really won’t help.  Or you might say that I have tried that before, but they still one me to live up to the expectations.  If that is the case read on and learn how to communicate with your family, and your parents.  It is a survival skill you need, and it is easier than you think.    

    

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